Couple / Family Counselling
Counselling in Kendal is based in the town centre at the Kirkland Centre. From £40.00-£50.00.
Social distancing must be maintained and screens will be used.
What to expect in couples / family counselling and psychotherapy
Why couple / family Counselling?
The aim of couples / family counselling and therapy is to provide you all with a confidential opportunity to explore your issues, thoughts and feelings together in a different space, in order to assist your learning, healing, understanding and growth. My role is to help you through the counselling process without judgement, or telling you what to do.
Couples / Family counselling, often referred to as 'marriage guidance' or 'family therapy', can support couples and familys work towards better communication, empathy and problem solving. Supporting couples to seperate amicably, stay together or move through difficult circumstances. Supporting Families to explore and work through issues that are getting in the way of quality family life.
The first session
In the first session I will explore with you your current issues, inquire about background history and establish the focus of counselling. It's your opportunity to ask anything about counselling or about me to help you to make sure of a good match for your needs. It is rare for me to see couples / family members individually. A counsellor will not take sides or negotiate solutions. The difficulty is in the relationship/s and so the solution is in each person 'hearing' and understanding each other. This is unlikely to be achieved by seeing clients individually.
We all would discuss our Counselling Working Agreement, which includes: boundaries, confidentiality, fees and an agreed way of working. This first session fee is £50.00. (Concessions are available thereafter for students, unemployed, on a sliding scale from £40.00 to £50.00 - please ask for details).
The counselling process and how it can help
The counselling process from beginning to end is firmly rooted in the counsellor offering the relational conditions that are best suited to nurturing psychological growth to each person present. Once these conditions are experienced, each person is more likely to be able to explore their issues and take forward their personal development at a pace that suits them with one another.
Counselling helps by offering a chance to tackle the here-and-now issues. It often (but not always) includes developing a better understanding of issues from the past, working through current patterns and concerns to improve the likelihood of a better future together or apart, each individual will be supported in attaining their individual growth and fulfilment.
An overview of the person centred approach to counselling and psychotherapy
As a Person Centred Counsellor I listen very carefully to what each of you say. I aim to step into your shoes and see the world from each of your point of view, how you experience your life and any issues you bring, as you each see them. I wholeheartedly believe in the positive nature of all human beings and that we are always striving to do the best we can. I believe in the uniqueness and worth of every individual and that everyone deserves respect to choose their own way through life. I recognise that you are the only expert in your own internal world, and the only person who really knows how you feel. The most important thing in couple / family counselling is the communication between you, and hopefully empathy is developed and is demonstrated between you, in which I hope that you will feel heard and understood, in a non-judgemental way, and that you will experience me and each other as real and genuine.
I will listen objectively and fairly to each client. Obviously the counsellor must not take sides but they need to genuinely understand the position and feelings of each client and frequently will need to clearly communicate that position to the other partner in a way the other can non-defensively hear it. The counsellor must genuinely value and understand both clients equally. In most cases the clients will have different positions, and often different things they hope to get from counselling. It is not at all unusual for one client to suspect that the couple / family relationship is finished, whilst the other/s desperately wants it to continue. The couples / family counsellor must genuinely honour and value these positions, without trying to tilt in either direction.